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I’ve talked about this some – but not enough I feel like. I had a long day at work today and then a night of rehearsals, and was, yet again, reminded why IMPROV is my religion.

some of my group, made of bees

I’m not going to get in to a religious debate here, that is not the point of this. Sure, I went to Catholic mass as a kid. Sure, I went to Bible study in college. But for me, in the end, getting up at 9AM every Sunday and singing hymnals wasn’t a way for me to connect with God, or a higher power.

A while ago, I can’t even remember when now, I read a story about someone who was taking an improv class with the infamous Amy Poehler – this is before she was famous and when she taught at her theater the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre in NYC. In this particular class session, Amy gave this note/small speech:

Treat the stage with respect. Treat it with total and complete reverence. The stage is my church. There is no place that I feel more alive, more myself, more truthful, more satisfied and happy.

Some people go to church to feel in touch with that creative force that some people call God. Well, I get that on stage. I have learned more about the person I want to be and can be from the lessons I have learned in improv classes and performing in shows. That is why I am here today. So if the stage is my church, improv is my religion.

Now, two people up for a scene and just rock out with your cocks out.

I couldn’t have said it better myself. Through all the bullshit, the stress, life changes, work, relationships, family, friends, money, cash, and foes: the stage, improv, they’re there for me.

The stage doesn’t let me down. It’s not about impressing people, it’s about having an outlet where unconditional support, positivity, and the ultimate in creative freedoms are embraced and encouraged.

Growing up, I was awkward as hell. Hell, I’m still pretty awkward. It wasn’t until I found comedy that I embraced the awkward and said, “Ahhh, fu*k it,” and I made this unspoken agreement with myself that I would no longer let the past dictate my future.

Am I getting way too existential for you? Am I making any sense at all?

The life lessons I have learned through improv, the way I feel when I completely embody a character that is totally unlike myself, the total and utter high I get when a scene is knocked out of the park and the audience is experiencing that side-splitting laughter and all I want to do is do THAT, again – that is the ultimate feeling of freedom. Of originality. Or selflessness. Of happiness. That’s my connection with God, Allah, a higher power, or the like.

During that time, I’m 100% connected to the stage and the people on it.

My best friends in the entire world are people I improvise with.

At Improv SLAM rehearsal tonight, the entire cast, all of us, we’d totally lost our minds – stuff went to crazytown, but I haven’t laughed that hard in a long time. When you get in that mode, nothing else matters. Every little stressor in life is completely washed away for those minutes or hours when you’re improvising with people you love.

In the alternate words of Aaron Neville, “I don’t know much… but I know I’ll have improv for the rest of my life.”

I want to know: what’s your Church? Do you practice a non-traditional religion that makes you feel awesome?

Word.

Things you, as my reader, know: I’m a comedian, a lover of Mexican food, Diet Coke, and of all things positive.

What you may not know, is that I am also an extremely big political dork. I love politics. In a previous life (not too long ago), I worked for former Virginia Governor Timothy Kaine. But, as much as I LOVE politics and healthy debate, when it comes to the social media world, I try my best to keep my opinions to myself. It’s not that I’m afraid of speaking my mind; it’s that I don’t want my opinions or beliefs to overshadow the other awesome things about me. Right?

But, because this is an issue I am extremely passionate about, I feel it necessary to share my feelings.

BACKSTORY (I spent my undergraduate years at Christopher Newport University (CNU) in Newport News, Virginia).

Silent But Equal Protest - February 2007 at CNU

In the fall of 2003, I ran for Freshman class president at CNU. Then I ran for student government senator. I didn’t know many people on campus, but I knew I wanted to get involved and make a difference. A big issue we dealt with that year was the topic of adding the phrase “sexual orientation” to the university’s non-discrimination policy. A non-discrimination policy is the formal, legal policy that any business, employer, organization, company, university, etc. has that says that the organization will not discriminate in employment, hiring, firing, acceptance, admission, etc. based upon sex, race, religion, veteran status, marital status, disability, and sometimes gender identity or sexual orientation.

Being a rather conservative campus, this idea of adding two words to a policy was extremely controversial. The final decision HAD to come from the university’s Board of Visitors, a body of people appointed by the governor. Well, in the spring of 2004 the proposal was tabled. Over the next three years the student government association (SGA) tried to get the proposal back on the table with no luck.

In the spring of 2006, I ran for student body president and I won. When I took office, I made it a promise to myself and to the students that this policy would NOT go unchanged under my watch. I didn’t care what I had to do, but the fact that there were some of my peers, students, faculty, and staff being discriminated against because of how they identified themselves or whom they chose to love was unacceptable.

I knew I was going up against a fight. A big fight. So I did my homework. I spent hundreds and hundreds of hours in the library doing research. I looked up the non-discrimination policies of over 500 colleges and universities in the WORLD that included sexual orientation. I researched fortune 500 companies that chose to not discriminate. I looked at the legal issues – there were none. When all was said and done, my formal proposal was over 42 pages long. And I printed and bound 15 copies – one for each board member. I wrote my speech, put on my suit, and rallied the campus. Over 700 students showed up to the board of visitors meeting that November in support. Four students showed up against. It was extremely emotional. Although the vote didn’t happen that day, the proposal got taken off the table and would be voted on in February. Between November and February I lobbied each BOV member and worked to make sure that it would pass.

In the meantime, my car was egged, my office was vandalized, and blog post after letter to the editor was written in haste of me. It was a really difficult time. Then, the day before the vote, I get a letter in the mail from (then) Attorney General of Virginia Bob McDonnell outlining why the addition of sexual orientation to the university’s non-discrimination policy was illegal. I WAS FLOORED.

I immediately called out every hasty generalization and every fallacy McDonnell stated and even called the Governor’s office to get a letter of support. TAKE THAT MCDONNELL.

To make an already long story shorter, February 23rd, 2007 came. Over 1,500 students showed up in silent protest with signs. I spoke to the Board of Visitors. Shot down every lame point McDonnell stated. Gave my final word. And the board voted.

More CNU Students at Silent Protest in 2007

It was unanimous in support of non-discrimination for all on campus. I don’t think I’ve ever cried so hard in my life. That was/is by far my proudest moment.

PRESENT DAY

That Attorney General is now the Governor of Virginia. Ken Cuccinelli is now the Attorney General. And this is what happened: On March 5th, 2010, Ken Cuccinelli wrote a letter to ALL the public colleges and universities in Virginia stating:

“It is my advice that the law and policy of the Commonwealth of Virginia prohibit a college or university from including ’sexual orientation’ ‘gender expression,’ or like classificaiton as a protected class within its non-discrimination policy, absent specific authorization from the General Assembly.”

BULLSHIT. Yeah, calling him on it. BULLSHIT.

It’s 2010. Does the General Assembly have to give specific authorization for RACE to be a protected class? How about SEX? Many arguments against the inclusion of “Sexual Orientation” state that it is a lifestyle choice and that lifestyle choices shouldn’t be protected in policies such as these.

Regardless on whether or not you think one’s sexual orientation is a choice, let’s think for a moment. RELIGION is a protected class. And that, to me, is a lifestyle choice. I, personally, choose not to identify with one religion. Others may choose to identify themselves a Catholic. That, is a choice.

Marital status is a choice. My friends, who happen to be married, CHOSE to get married. It’s not 1493 in ancient Egypt and their marriage wasn’t arranged. It was a choice.

I could go on.

But my overall frustration lies in the message this type of letter is sending. It’s a divider. It’s making an issue (that shouldn’t even BE an issue) one of controversy, religion, and political affiliation. It’s not about being a republican, democrat, Christian, Muslim, straight or gay. In the end, this is about human beings, human beings who should never feel as though they are second class citizens. We are no better than our friends, enemies, sisters, brothers, neighbors, or strangers. It is 2010 and we should ALL feel equal. We should ALL be able to walk across town or across campus and know that we are protected by that which governs us.

So, to you, AG Kucinelli and Governor McDonnell, I say put aside your “religious beliefs” and “partisan politics” and wake the hell up. Know that the students in your Virginia universities are bright, intelligent, beautiful, and are incredibly brilliant. And just because you don’t agree with who some of them may choose to love does NOT give you the right to make them feel insignificant.

Even though I don’t live in Virginia anymore, I hope that this type of behavior stops now. If I learned anything from my mother, it’s that you stand up for what you know is right, even if it may not be the most popular decision on the block.

/Rant.

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Want more information? Here is some of the archived press coverage of when I was in school and how my university fought to change the policy.

• Current Article with Reference to 2007
• Inside Higher Education
• Daily Press Spotlight
• CNU Board of Visitor’s Meeting Minutes: February 23, 2007
• Protest Coverage
• Office Defacement

Write a letter to or call AG Kuccinelli:

Office of the Attorney General
900 East Main Street
Richmond, VA 23219

(804) 786-2071

Write a letter to or call Governor McDonnell:

P.O. Box 1475
Richmond, Virginia 23218

(804) 786-2211